Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History

Hey Boss Babes,

When I was 10 years old, my oldest sisterfriend gave me a sticker that said, “well behaved women seldom make history”(Ulrich). Well, I’m not generally a rule breaker. I’m a get to work on time, submit my deadlines early, wait at a red light when it’s 3 in the morning and no one is around kind of babe. But sometimes, things change.

I found myself surrounded by ~40,000 people who care about women’s rights because I had decided that I wanted to be on the right side of history. I mean, love wins, right?!? Well... apparently not all the time. I was standing in front of the San Diego Civic Theater with people of all demographics; age, class, gender, ethnicity, you name it. Two of the women in my group, I hardly knew, but let’s face it-- we all had something in common, and we were all there to rally around our cause. We were taking a part in the Women's March. 

To be completely honest, I was hesitant to go. I was hesitant because of the crowd, because I was being pushed (and guilt tripped) into going-- even though I had initially been planning on it, and I was hesitant because I was afraid of getting “too involved” in politics. I’ve been to demonstrations before, but with our current political culture there’s a lot more at stake.

And that’s just it. There’s a lot more at stake… a lot more to lose, so I decided to march. 

So, for the Boss Babes out there who are feeling intimidated to talk about politics, to take risks, and get “too involved”, I know what that feels like. I also know that I believe that women’s rights matter and that the personal really is political. 

I’ve found that by having (respectful) dialogue and discussion can be really powerful. It’s a great way to educate yourself, and for you to teach others. A lot of the time, when you read political jargon, it can sound not so bad on paper, or maybe it sounds really great, but you don’t have a complete understanding. When you hear how that is legitimately impacting someone's life, it makes a difference-- good or bad. Likewise, share your experiences. Be open minded to others opinions and maybe you’ll both learn something. 

One of my fav daily newsletter is the Skimm. It was started by two women who wanted to make news more accessible to the average babe (yo! That’s me!). It’s crazy how much more empowered I feel when talking politics now. It’s easy to read, pretty funny, and still full of solid content. It’s not super in depth, but it has cued curiosity for me to dive in deep into certain issues that I care about. 

Another great app that I recently found is Countable. One of the reasons I like this app is because it allows you to contact your representatives directly. You can also customize your feed based on your interests. It makes activism easy and accessible for us busy Boss Babes. 

If you're into the idea of activism, but you don't exactly know how to keep progressing, check out think link (written by aforementioned sisterfriend). You can also check the Women's March Website as they encourage 100 days of activism, and give you tips on how to do so. 

Overall, I’m really glad I went to the Women’s March. Knowing that more than 5 million people worldwide were also marching for the same thing is pretty awesome. I connected with new women, experienced the energy of the crowd, had and observed heart opening moments (my favorite was when the mother next to me kissed her daughter's head and said, “this is for you honey” *insert tears and heart melts here*), and took a moment of gratitude for the fact that when we get together, we can make a difference.

I know that we may all have the same political ideologies, but I think one thing we can agree on is that women’s rights are important, and women's rights are human rights. As Boss Babes, it’s important that we have the same legal rights as everyone else. If we want to be taken seriously, be successful, and make change, we need to be heard. We need to use our voices to stand up for those who don't have the same freedoms that we do, and to protect ourselves in times of change. This isn’t about hating others, it’s about empowering ourselves and the generations to come. This is for our grandmothers, sisters, daughters, and friends. After all, you know what they say, “Empowered Women, Empower Women”. 


Alisha Ochoa
Founder || Creative Director
Boss Babes Brunch Club